Getting into a Talkative State

Getting into that initial talkative state can take either 2 seconds or 2 hours... it seems like once you get into your head it quickly turns into a downward spiral. If that first approach doesn't happen quickly, you'll start suffering from 'analysis paralysis' where nothing seems to work cuz your mind will come up with a-million-and-one reasons why your approach will crash (she's too beautiful, there are guys with her, she's closed off, she's busy, she doesn't want me to go up to her, etc). So, I've come up with a couple'a crutches that have helped me in the past....

• Get warmed up. Call a good buddy on your cell and bullshit with them about anything and nothing. Go into an adjacent bar and chat up 2 or 3 random sets, just to get talkative. Don't worry about closing, just get those lips moving and energy flowing.
• Go into the approach expecting to fail. Weird concept I know, but go into it with a mindset of "I'm gonna fuck this up and I'm gonna enjoy it". If you do botch the approach, no biggie. If you nail it, you'll be like "holy shit, i didn't expect that"
• (my personal favorite) Tell yourself "I cannot fail" and keep that mental state as you approach. Your body language and speech will radiate it. How would you move through life if you had knowledge that you absolutely cannot fail at anything you do?
• Pretend the entire club/bar is a movie set, you're the star, and your targets are a bunch of actors. They're expecting you.
• Pretend it's all a dream. Have you ever had a dream where you knew you were dreaming? (It's called lucid dreaming) It's a fucked-up feeling isn't it? Take that same attitude when you approach. It's all a dream, and you'll wake up in the next hour, so who cares how big of a fool you made of yourself.
• Tell your wing, "ok, pick a set for me and *dare* me to approach".... being a good wing he will do it, and all pressure is taken off your shoulders. After all, you're the approach because of a dare....
• Pretend you have a squad of beautiful college cheerleaders standing 10 feet away from you, cheering on your every move. Look over to them, mentally letting them know you're about to approach. Envision them cheering you on, "G-O! We love you!!!! You go this stud!!!"

Remember, most of these are crutches, but will help you get over that approach anxiety. Once you're in the set, the approach anxiety goes away. It's like the gym, you may dread going there but once you're in the car driving you've already made up your mind and it's too late to pull out now.